Many people think that winning a game is everything and does give them immense pleasure. Of course who doesn’t love to win but there are times where winning doesn’t matter at all. There are very few people in this world who gain joy in letting other’s win.
I am not talking about personal relationships or family matters where you are connected with blood relations. Here we are trying to understand about the pleasure we get from happy faces of our competitors. So you will think that why to let the competitor win the game.
The reason behind this is our behaviour and attitude towards a particular situation. Not just talking about a competition but any situation where you meet an unknown person on the way. When we take birth and step into the real world we actually don’t think about the people living below our financial background.
Not just financially but in every perspective like education, respect, work, culture etc. So a lot of people think that the lower class is the working class and are differentiated as labourers. The dominant mentally of humans work like this that when they find someone below them, they try to assert dominant powers over those individuals.
Though there are good people in this world but majority of people have this type of behaviour. The reality of winning can come true only when we will let others win by creating hope in them. A person who is depressed and giving his/her best might not be able to come out until he/she is given a push towards the hope.
So in such times it’s the people around who can boost the moral of these individuals and at last this will help them to unlock their true potential.
DON’T MAKE THEM DEPENDENT ON YOU JUST LIFT THEM AND LEAVE
When we talk about helping people we can do a lot of things to increase their moral. So that they can move forward to get a place which they deserve. While this sounds easy but at the same time it can be difficult to someone who himself/herself is going through several issues yet not giving up.
And when you don’t have any support then how will you give that consistent amount of support to others? That’s why before helping anyone you have to first help yourself in order to solve your own issues. When you will gain enough strength and stability then only you will be able to support others.
When a person grows rich and successful then he/she opens a charity or a non-profit organization in order to help poor who are below poverty line. Some of the charities are funded and poor children are given shelter and food to survive. They are taught various skills depending on their learning and educate them to survive by themselves in the future.
There’s a supportive hand and they themselves have to do the work for the betterment of themselves. So in order to activate our system we need fuel. Which is provided by an external source and after sometime the system needs to be refuelled by ourselves only.
Dependence can cause severe damage to our future. And it is worth noting that a human gets spoiled easily when he/she is dependent on someone for needs and additional luxury. This excludes handicapped and disabled humans according to situation. Same is true for animals who are dependent on humans for food and shelter when adopted.
Once animals are adopted they get dependent on humans. And let me tell you that once they get dependent then there’s no chance for survival if they are left alone forever. This is because they get attached to that routine and those habits are highly impossible to cut off.
That’s why before adopting any animal you are required to take full responsibility till his/her lifetime. Many people leave them alone with an intention that they can survive by themselves which becomes actually impossible.
In case of humans they need to get a slight push so that they can continue their journey again. So that’s why support them until they are able to move on from their pasts by themselves.
NEVER REGRET ABOUT PEOPLE WHOM YOU HAVE HELPED
This is one of the most frustrating moments for everyone that when we support someone unknown and after sometime we feel cheated for helping those individuals. And that’s why many people are afraid to help someone whom they don’t trust.
People are afraid because if someone goes ahead then the same feeling might turn negative. It’s very common and obvious that not everyone is going to treat you with the same amount of passion and love. The worst part you need to understand is the feeling we create about someone since that person has wasted our time.
That feeling needs to go away because if not then it will constantly hurt you without any reason. When we have poured so much of time and hard work in someone whom we have met for the first time then we are unable to forget those memories.
The second important point to remember is that you will see people having huge amount of potential, performing and healing very well. Jealousy at such phase can arrive immediately. Another type of jealousy is that you will meet people who will go far ahead of you.
You need to be grateful for helping them and you need to keep in mind that you were useful to them in some way. And that’s how you will be able to make progress in life.
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