We all have been asking throughout our lives that why do people think about themselves all day. Why they are so selfish? We are living in that period where we don’t understand priorities. And I am not only talking about the young age generation, but even the adults and old age people are suffering through this problem.
When we say a person is selfish then what we think is that he or she creates a boundary and doesn’t allow anyone to enter. They only think about themselves and not the people around who are actually important. This is the common human thought because this is the situation we all are going through.
When we care about them more than anyone else and they don’t even love us back is also a kind of selfishness we think when we are more involved in relationships and personal matter. When we wake up early in the morning, we get urges to poop. So we will take extra time and make someone wait until we are comfortable.
We will make others wait who are going through the similar situation in order to make ourselves feel comfy. So selfishness is not only waiting at specific corner but it is involved at every moment of our life. But why do humans always act selfish? This is one of the most popular and common questions that we all are waiting for being answered.
There are various reasons behind this but I will list the most important and relevant one’s that is actually happening in every individual’s life.
1. FACING UNAVOIDABLE STRUGGLES
There is no living being on this planet who haven’t face any struggles throughout his or her life (Even Pooping and eating is a kind of struggle). Humans face constant up’s and down’s not only physically but even emotionally as well as mentally too. These struggles can be called as unavoidable as they are related to our personal needs.
We all know that food, shelter and clothing are common needs of a man but presently we can also include a partner. Yes! It has become our need because we are living in the 21st century. There are several changes happening in our lifestyle. If you look back in those ninety’s then we have come up with changes in dressing patterns, eating habits and more consumption of dating apps and explicit content.
Leave the eating pattern aside then you will get to know that dress code, consumption of dating apps and explicit content has increased at an unimaginable rate. If you google, “The top most viewed websites” then you will observe that some of them rank for explicit content they show. Though Google avoids to show them in automated search results, but there are more number of return visitors than you can ever think.
We feel that desire of wanting more and consuming that content as much as possible. It’s because of that desire we are so much attracted to it. They are most visited websites because today in this modern period we are dependent over them. What we do naturally as a human being can also be seen on our mobile phones.
And that is the difference between ninety’s and the present period. That is why our lifestyles our changing and we are adapting the trend. Watching this content is also a kind of unavoidable struggle because we don’t want to let others know about it. Especially people who are in committed relationships. Many of them even think that their relationships are not enjoying at all.
Doing the same thing again and again feels like boring and therefore they turn over this online content. So, how does a person becomes selfish through unavoidable struggle? Then just think about that hard work we are involving in every situation here. Hard work to hide the truth from our personal relationships to avoid any kind of hurting.
And that’s we want our time to feel happy and satisfied within those personal boundaries and doing things which we want to. That’s why we become selfish to satisfy our desires.
2. TO ACHIEVE ENTITLEMENT
Have you ever worked for achieving a tag that you have always dreamed for? If you take example of doctors, lawyers, chefs, teachers then there is a common tag that we give to them. Yes and because of that special tag they feel great about themselves.
But achieving that tag becomes very tough. Digging in its deep core feels like as never ending. First of all we need a formal education and basic foundation to understand it clearly. Afterwards we take a specialization course to dive deep in its roots. Then the main journey starts of applying that knowledge in our work.
We train ourselves and also join different organization in order to gain good amount of experience. We push that timeline so much and at last we get that tag. That special tag in which we have struggled through that entire journey. So basically there is a lot of hard work involved in order to receive that amount of fame.
And that’s why we achieve that entitlement. In order to invest that hard work in appropriate manner we become selfish and choosy. Hard work has some value because it consumes our precious time. We don’t let others to get involved with our entitlement. That’s called as ownership. Let’s take an example to clear this topic. Suppose you want to buy a nice and spacious home somewhere you are dreaming of.
That place is bit expensive as it is located in the urban area. So in order to buy your dream home, you will need money and to make money you will require a job or a business. A job might be the easiest route and therefore you will work extra hours to make some extra income from it.
Years pass by and then after working for so many years you achieve that dream. One day suppose an unknown person tries to threaten you and asks you to sign an agreement in order to make ownership of your sweet home. So will you let him do that easily or will you fight with him.
Of course you will fight because the amount of hard work you have spent in getting that entitlement of ownership might be unimaginable. That might be the only way to deal with it. So of course you need to become a selfish individual in order to achieve an entitlement.
3. TO DEAL WITH THE COMPETITION
Have you ever participated in a competition? Yes, everyone does. But what you have really observed common in every competition. What is that simple idea which we think when we hear the word competition? Of course we think of individual work. People work over themselves in order to win.
Every individual deals with the situation seeing the amount of competition. Suppose such a situation happens in which one competitor starts helping the other one in order to win. Will it be still called as competition? There are very few and rare moments like this because each and every individual is trying to tackle with one another. Everyone is thinking about themselves first. A competition becomes a place where we have to fight with others in order to win that prize or trophy or even success.
So won’t you think about yourself when you are in a competition? Yes we need to become selfish so that we can win. And that’s why in a competition we need to think about ourselves first and become selfish humans.
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