The cheating rate in relationships have increased drastically in these recent years. Though it is a sign of problem but we cannot control it because we love them. People who are cheated feel terrible and miserable because it kills internally. A lot of people might have suffered through this situation because of several reasons and first of all the major reason behind this is undeniable addiction.
Just like smoking and drinking is an addiction this is a kind of addiction which happens naturally. It is a desire and most importantly it cannot be stopped because of physical growth. Most of the people intermix love with relationship. You can love someone even when you are not in a relationship. Basically relationship is the form of entitlement that showcase a form of bond.
We almost get confused when we mix up love with relationship. Some people form relationship just for namesake and some do it in order to reveal out their feelings. But first of all why do we fall over others? Why can’t we mind our own business and die alone? This is because the system is working in this manner.
As we all know that during jobs and work time we almost feel tired due to long lectures of boss and when working with our clients. And also due to physical changes happening inside our body, we become physically mature. Due to the stress and tensions around, our body too gets affected negatively. So in such situation we are attracted towards the opposite gender.
It is said that we never confess feelings to our elders or an unknown person. But when we find someone attractive to our mind, we just can’t stop confessing to that person. And that person is basically our friend or a partner. These two relationships are most preferred ones because we find it comfortable and gradually we also start catching feelings.
Cheating not only happens in a girlfriend and boyfriend relationship, but it even takes place in friendships. Some people love their friends like anything and when they do something wrong it feels hurt. Isn’t it? Being cheated by a partner has some another level of feeling because what we think as commitment becomes a tragedy.
But undeniably cheating is everywhere. Even if you see in property matters our own blood relationships turnout to be sour from their sweet little face and then we blame ourselves for being so nice.
PEOPLE ARE NOT CRUEL THEY ARE JUST IMMATURE
Immaturity exists in every individual and that is why this society can never be perfect. We can never be perfect because we are immature. So why this immaturity exist and we will answer this problem through the following example. There are two men, one is called as Tom and the other one is Shawn.
Tom is intelligent and has a very dominant attitude. He holds his ego and never likes to listen to anyone’s lecture. He only makes his decision and always thinks about himself first. Shawn is an introvert and highly sensitive. He thinks about every situation in an emotional perspective. Shawn is a very realistic person and also tries to understand other’s perspective in a very serious way.
A situation arrives for Tom and Shawn. There are two women: one is old and other is young, they are stuck in middle of the road and they both want lift to reach to their destination. But here the situation is much tough, the old woman needs immediate treatment and is looking for nearest hospital. Tom is driving his bike through the lane and spots these two women waving at him. He listens to them carefully and unfortunately there is only one seat on his bike.
Seeking the right opportunity for his marriage, he takes the young woman and dumps the old one in a miserable way. Now Shawn is also driving the bike through the same lane and one more lady has arrived next to her. Shawn listens to both of them and takes the older woman on his backseat. But he doesn’t leave the young woman alone at the spot.
He arranges some another vehicle and they both continue on the lanes. Now who do you think has played well in this situation? You might be thinking about Shawn, isn’t it? But now suppose you are at place of him, who will you choose? You might tell the same thing but deep down you will deny because you will miss the brilliant opportunity.
It’s not only about males but if you think even about females, stubborn minded people will choose what they feel as right. Stubborn minded people held as a problem in the society because of their attitude and they keep their ego first. When it comes to understanding, it’s not only about mental but we also need to think it in an emotional manner.
Some people are mature mentally but not emotionally because they think what is right for them and benefits them the most. So here the benefits comes first and yes who won’t miss this opportunity. But in this case the importance should actually be given to that old woman who is suffering and that is why we need to think also in an emotional way.
People are actually not cruel, they just look at their benefits first and that is a common human tendency. We all are blessed with immaturity and sometimes even in this situation people only think about themselves. It is really sad but you should not because this is a fact.
LOVE YOURSELF AND THINK ABOUT YOURSELF FIRST
So when thinking about perspectives, changing their course of actions and trying to implement different ideas, you will end up with nothing. It’s a common human tendency and we start catching feelings over that person. And that is the most common mistake because we are in the process of learning. Instead of thinking about ourselves, we think about others and start catching feelings for them.
When they cheat, we regret and that cycle just never stops because our desires force us to do so. I know that is a bit frustrating because you cannot handle, but rather than loving someone else, love yourself first. Self-love has been trending so much in this modern and technical world that we give importance to materialistic things.
Just like money to earn, comforting the other person who might be suffering through a problem and we never look over ourselves. Some part of our energy is depleting drastically and if we don’t manage to focus and give importance to ourselves then it will kill you internally. You need to be selfish and create some boundaries not to protect ego but in order to think about yourself.
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