It is said that it takes only one decision to change the destiny of your life. And once the time is gone then it can never be retained back. A decision will never show you the path of success beforehand. Because if that was possible then everyone would have chosen only one decision in their life.
And then there would have been an increase of competition among people. Decision making can be called as a risky game. But it completely depends on you that how you perceive the decision. You are the one who will be progressing towards your future with the decision you are making.
A lot of times what I see is young adults complaining about their parents for forcing them in following the crowd. This is a very common reason nowadays because we mostly take decision on the basis of social pressure. We are always careful that whatever move we make needs to be align with the sentiment of our people and their thoughts.
Isn’t it? And then we move forward with that decision. What we don’t observe most of the time is the ideology of disciplined people. They never follow the herd or the psychology of the world.
When it comes to your growth, career and future never involve any kind of relationship to decide your fate. It’s the worst case scenario for someone who works hard every single day but listens to colleagues and parents to make decision. You know your capabilities and abilities.
You know what suits you the best and that is why you should firmly listen to yourself well before your colleagues and other kind of relationships. After this phase you will take the complete responsibility of not only your decisions but even of your life.
NEVER TAKE DECISION ACCORDING TO YOUR MOODS
I have explained this a lot of times in my books and podcast but still many people do this mistake and never try to accept it. Mood is the mental state of mind which is produced by some situations around us. Simply it is our current state of our emotions and this directly affects our actions.
Take an example, suppose you have been shouted by your boss for not completing task on time. This irritates you at a very personal level and you take those thoughts to your home with complete frustration over your face. And after that you pour down the anger on your close relationships. This happens in most of the homes.
And the controller of our mood lies within our thoughts, emotions and actions. Even if you are not able to control yourself then don’t try to take important decisions in such mood. People repeat this mistake and impatiently make decisions which afterwards they regret of taking it.
Even if you are happy but that doesn’t mean your decision will be correct. Generally when we are happy we take decisions beyond our reach and imaginations. And unfortunately that too goes wrong. So you should never involve your temporary emotions with your long term decision.
SET A PLAN AND DON’T WAIT FOR SURPRISES
I hear from a lot of people taking decisions and gambling on them with some kind of expectations in return. It’s wrong because if you are gambling your decision then remember you are also gambling your future and career with it. A surprise is similar to a lottery you are expecting which has almost no chance of occurring into your life.
There are lot of people like this who have similar mentality of expecting a surprise in life. A surprise needs to be a secondary component of your life. Your primary component needs to be your hard work and your right attitude. It might happen or not but expecting surprises all the time won’t ever help you in the longer run.
See you need to be aware of unexpected surprises in your life. They can happen anytime and yes they are part of life. An expected surprise is your thinking which doesn’t mean it will be happening anytime soon. One will be able to survive in any kind of environment only after accepting the tough part of life.
One of the reason that we make doubts on our decisions is because of too many expectations revolving around our mind. We focus more on our expectations than creating and executing our plans. It will create a deep hole in your life and it can make you depressed all the time.
Once you stop expecting surprises then only you will be able to free yourself from any kind of doubts. Further you won’t fall for any kind of shortcuts while working on your decisions. Hard work and having the right kind of mindset are the only way to stop doubting over your decision. You shouldn’t have any regrets no matter how much struggles you are making.
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