Cheating on our partner is one of the biggest crime in our social space. Even if you have relationship conflicts, property disputes but cheating can be a great disaster. It leads to depression, anxiety, fatigue, betrayal of feelings for someone. No matter how much we try to convince ourselves but the feeling just keeps us holding over our haunted past.
That’s what cheating does. Most of us don’t even feel good when we hear someone cheated over his/her spouse or someone cheated his partner. In some cases cheating can be forgivable like when a young child cheats in an exam but when the same child cheats with your feelings or betrays you, it makes you miserable. Isn’t it?
All of these feelings are created by the ideology and the society we are living in. In clear sense, we all follow the path of what society says as acceptable. Then it can be a myth or a belief which has already vanished. We all know what marriage is but just ask yourself who told you about it? Was it the society and your family?
Of course it’s a big yes because we humans have created this tradition of marriage in order to settle with a status. It’s wrong to have a multiple relationship when you are already married. A woman totally feels agitated when she sees her men flirting with some other women.
It’s a belief which is created by the society and every woman knows about it that it’s wrong to cheat. In past there were several issues regarding inequality and women faced it and called it as myth. The issue was freedom and equal opportunities. So for most men it is a myth of being committed to a single relationship as they have constant urge to explore more number of women.
There’s always an underlying problem in our life but we have to find solution by ourselves. Men don’t feel like cheating but it’s their desire what makes them to do it. If there was no desire to have multiple women in their life then none of the men would have done that. Similarly it was a desire to get equal amount of opportunities, education because women in the past felt themselves as miserable.
What we call as cheating is a myth. There’s nothing called as cheating. It’s our society which opposes it. It’s our ideology which opposes it. There are lot of people who have committed relationships yet they don’t mind to explore their desires outside their boundaries. It’s not just only about men but even women are able to explore their physical desires beyond their committed relationship.
And such relationships go far longer than what we have expected. The reason behind this is only one which is going to be explained in the next title.
COMMUNICATION WON’T MAKE THEM FEEL CHEATED
The best kind of example I can relate this is with our supervisors in school. How many of you have been that lucky when supervisor herself/himself told you to copy but silently? I know there will be some people who have experienced this. It’s an amazing feeling when the person whom you fear the most changes your mood suddenly.
That impulse of those words just refreshes our mind within seconds. Similarly we have to negotiate our pride, respect for the sake of exploring our freedom and desires. Cheating is said to be done when we do something secretly because of fear of being caught.
Like committed men when they date other women secretly even after having their girlfriend. Yes, it is done secretly to complete that desire and to not hurt the current relationship. And when they are caught red handed their partners leave them since it is termed as “cheating”. There’s a sudden reflex reaction of aggression, betrayal that we can’t accept it.
But what will happen if we already convince our partner for exploring our desires? Will they get a sudden impulse reaction of being cheated? Of course no and that won’t happen because we have already taken that permission within the relationship from that person and made some agreement.
Cheating is just a myth which the society has created because it’s not accepted. You can win any kind of relationship and even over your extra desires only if you have enough flexibility and trust in your committed relationship. When there’s understanding and agreement even the worst of our fears will turn into happiness.
Communication is that one key which will help you to not make them feel cheated. The scenario of why we fall into breakups so easily is because we don’t make an agreement within our committed relationship. Women feel cheated in their relationship only because of this reason.
If men would make an agreement within their relationship then this problem would have got vanish by itself. It will always feel like being cheated if both of the partners don’t try to understand other or make an agreement. Further the point is very few people can accept this kind of relationships because we have always been following the same rule.
And that is being only with one person forever. This article is written intentionally for those people who don’t communicate with their partners properly and make the biggest mistake of their life. It is written for those men and women who fear of destroying their relationships because of their constant desire.
First talk to your partner and make him/her understand about your needs in order to avoid the complexity of relationship in the future. Don’t fear to talk because afterwards you will feel guilty of breaking their trust.
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