It’s common that we will find at least a person around us who is worrying about his/her ex at this moment. People who think about their relationships die early. They actually don’t die but they kill their happiness. What we are doing is finding happiness in someone. If you are reading this post then it might be you are suffering through this phase.
And if it’s really happening with you then it genuinely means you are finding that happiness in that person. Hope you will heal yourself and get out from this misery. But wait if it was possible then you would have done it by yourself. Isn’t it? Humans do find solutions to complex problems like what has happened with technological changes.
You might have read so many books that can be of self-help genre, mental health etc but still nothing is working. Actually we humans convert such problems into big issues and mourn over again. That’s why nothing works at all. And these habits are also the reason for your overthinking. They make you think more since you are thinking about them every time.
You try to get rid of them but you end up hurting yourself. This is not okay and this is the reason you are not able to forget that person. What you call as love is not actually love but it’s an illusion you are carrying all way around as love. Simply it means you are trying to put yourself in someone else’s shoes.
It can be your husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, friend or anyone whom you want to be close as much as possible. People give much more importance to these relationships and not ones who are really important. They won’t give the same amount of importance to their parents and sibling like what they give it to their partners. And ultimately these people make regrets of taking such decision.
But one shouldn’t have these regrets since we humans are learning in every phase. It can also happen that the person whom you had break-up with is also learning through this phase or might have stuck in some deep shit while finding for extra amount of happiness. And yes this happens with each one of us and there is no need to have regrets at all.
Just imagine there are so many people who lose brilliant opportunities in markets which then become great businesses. So remember that how many regrets they could be having. It’s impossible to measure the amount of opportunities they are leaving. But wait don’t just think about the opportunities.
Now think in a different way, suppose whatever opportunities which were missed get into a destructive phase. None of them worked well and yes that might be a relief for anyone. The same is true with our relationships. We never know how much valuable relationships are until they rise in their value. But at the same time we need to also know that not all of them will flourish.
DON’T TRY TO FIND PEACE IN OTHERS YOU WILL END UP IN PAIN
This statement might sound too much relatable yet we ignore it all the time. We were told by our parents and even our close neighbourhood that not to accept chocolates and toys from an unknown person. But does it apply right now? Should you accept treat from an unknown.
Yes, we know we are mature enough to make our decision and we might even accept it. But what they had said also applies for the entire lifetime. Though we don’t act like child anymore but still we don’t have enough amount of experience and understanding. Further we never know the intention of that person even though we feel like we have grown up.
People set this ego and take unwanted risks in life. If you wish to find happiness in unknown, then remember it’s better to find it by helping them without setting kind of expectations in return. And in that too you need to understand the situation of that person. It shouldn’t happen like you are helping people to make their way simpler in doing wrong things.
We don’t have that fear anymore to talk to an unknown person or even make him/her your acquaintance. But remember that the other person is also not child anymore and has attended enough maturity to fool you. So many people who get excited to meet up random humans end up hurting themselves.
The reason behind this is their own expectations. We humans set expectations since we meet that person for first time. It sounds like a woman thinking about how handsome and muscular that man might be who is dating for first time. But as you know we end up being fool again and again. It just never ends.
If you want to find peace then remember that it’s always within you. It’s lying within your mind, your thoughts and your soul. If you try to find it anywhere else you will hurt yourself more. It’s not only written here but there are thousands of books you will find that this statement is very much true.
The main problem is that the expectations of human are limitless and beyond imagination. That’s why they cannot be fulfilled easily. And because of this we won’t be able to satisfy ourselves. So if you really miss your ex then look in the mirror and think about yourself first. Don’t put your mind, thoughts and soul into trouble. They too require care.
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