It’s definitely one of the worst feeling when you find out that you have been cheated by someone. It’s not only in a relationship but also in the smallest matter which can arise through a dispute. You don’t know that because of the last fight, the person might had taken wrong step to reveal his/her values. Most importantly people cheat because there is a situation which is troubling or to make much more amount of profits than the required. There are lot of businesses which run on cheat game and shot up with profits in one go. It’s risky like a stock market and you never know the fluctuation when you get involved at early stage.
People come with higher expectations either they have heard the name about the brand through word of mouth or they have found a heck lot of reviews on the internet. But that doesn’t mean the end product is best because we think it all depends on our expectations. If our expectations are not fulfilled then we might think of turning back and moving on to others.
It is obvious and some people even charge bad reviews in order to spread awareness about the inferior quality of the product. People generally don’t cheat because who will like to do it unless it is created through an external force. It’s similar to the situation of a thief whose only purpose which remains in life is to cheat in order to earn money
This is because he/she is forced by the hunger or they don’t want to work in life. A part from external forces there are some internal forces too involved just like what we discussed now. Even a person who has evolved with good values can be brainwashed and diverted to unworthy plans.
The truth is that cheat games cannot be avoided because if it wants to happen, then it will definitely take place. There is no way in between to pull yourself out from the situation. It’s the reality and in fact people do regret just because they have taken active part in it.
And this emotion then becomes a poison to our loving nature. You need not have to feel guilty since it’s a psychological tendency of human beings. From birth they want their needs to be fulfilled and we cannot stop them from doing so. We think that there should be a law created for even the smallest mistake, like when someone tries to cheat in a relationship.
Unfortunately even the law doesn’t have solution to this problem. It can’t give justice because each of them would be having different kind of expectation. The only solution is forgiveness. The problem is with our emotions because they suffocate when we don’t accept the fact.
You can really enjoy this life without even having materialistic form of happiness. Because of this problem millions of people around the world fall into depression. And then they get diagnosed by certain diseases which can cause harm in the longer run.
DON’T TRY TO COMPLICATE THINGS MORE
One of the most common and very crucial advice for those who always think a lot about the future. It’s not in terms of loss of profit but we cry over the grief and we start creating unhealthy stories in our mind. The frequency of our thoughts increases when we find ourselves cheated.
First of all we set so many expectations and all of them get vanished when we get to hear the truth. So will we be able to find a way by crying over it again and again? Will we be able to find a way by disturbing our mental health? Of course not and this is because there is already some dirt which has settled on our thinking process.
It’s very important to understand that overthinking about the same topic is not the solution to the problem. Instead let it go and be happy with whatever you have at present. You know why do we cry over them again and again? It’s because we always think about the amount of patience and love we have given to it in order to grow. Obviously it is no one other than humans. Some people do it secretly without even letting others know about it.
Trust me if you are secretly trying to care about a person, then you shouldn’t because it will create unwanted expectations. Generally this is not felt at first but when we find ourselves cheated, then we lose our hopes permanently.
Pouring more amount of energy into someone whom you have found as a cheater will create a hole in your positive behaviour. And people don’t realise even after knowing the past history. They wait for the person to change. They still wait for their illusion to accomplish in the future.
TRY TO KEEP YOURSELF BUSY IN THE WORK YOU LOVE
You know what people generally do when they have been cheated? They scroll and try to stalk profiles of their dear one’s. They specially wait for them to come online. And then block them for a while. It’s a process but they remain busy over something which is not going to give any results.
You never know the other person is stalking back on you or not. And people often try to hurt themselves more. It is said that in such time, one should remain busy in productive work. It can be the work you love, your passion, hobbies etc. But the output should be positive and boost your energy to carry out the other work.
One of the key benefits of doing this is you will be able to forget the past very easily. When you remain busy doing something, you concentrate over that particular work. And of course it helps you to get relieved from the stress which was ultimately causing from your wrong thoughts. Being busy will slowly help you to forgive the person as earliest as possible.
It’s the best way to not let your growth get hindered because of your expectations. Try to work hard on improving other parts of your life. Cheating happens but it doesn’t mean you will stop working and living. We are humans, and someday we will be able to create the best life.
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