How does it feel when someone points out our mistakes when we are doing best to hide it? I know you might have been in this situation several times especially when your parents or teachers are around you. Though teachers might not know you from every point, but they can point out your mistakes just because they got to know about your academic results and also through what is going on your mind.
Then there are those students who try to impress there teachers as much as possible but they fail to do it. Whenever they try to do good things, it turns out into wrong doings. Just like helping friends during a test. It might be appreciative for your friends but not to your teacher. Doing right things at the wrong time can extremely be disastrous.
Like getting urges to pee during exam time or by mistakenly pooping in the girl’s washroom (Your eyes were strained to read the signboard). It can happen and even after working with the right intentions, our actions can be felt wrong. People never know what your intentions are and that is why they feel for your actions. But sometimes our mind can get inactive and can perform things in a response to a stimuli.
So how you will deal with such situations? Will you apologise, create fights or explain everything calmly? Even if you try to apologise, some people might still have doubts. Just like the example we took above. If you entered the girl’s washroom hoping that it would be of boys, then it can cause a lot of disturbance, especially to the mindset of boys. Even females won’t leave you for the mistake and boys will start trolling and create handsome memes on the internet which then might not be good for your mind.
If you are female reading this shit then you might not understand the torture innocent males have to face. The main point to discuss here is that sometimes it can happen that when we are trying to do something good, but it turns into black ash. You expect it to do gold but everyone is settling over copper. Actually the mindset of people is shaped in this manner because they are taking doubts over every single situation which comes on their way.
Though you might have done unintentionally but people won’t change their mind unless they find some solid evidence. Even if you are innocent or a peaceful person who always help others but people nowadays don’t even leave them. If you are at fault, then no matter how much you try to convince them, they will always keep doubts. Then there are few individuals who might believe in you after knowing your behavior, but those type of thinkers are also turning doubtful.
Then what can you do in such a situation where it’s not your mistake and then too you have to face all the negative remarks about yourself. And that is why motivators like you and millions of others will be suffering in the near future. During those old traditional days, people use to think before saying something to the other person.
People used to study the attitude and behavior of humans. When the time social media came into existence, people are preferring more amount of fun and unlimited entertainment.
OUR MIND PREFERS SUGGESTIONS OF PEOPLE
Just imagine, you are on your vacations and you take numerous selfies from the topmost discovered destinations. It’s time to upload on Facebook. So will you directly upload it or take some suggestions from your friends or parents? Of course people will be more comfortable of taking suggestions from their friends, rather than deciding themselves. Sometimes what happens is that we think about the fear of being called old fashion or our clothes might look dull.
Some of them might even judge the quality and resolution of the photo. And we want everyone to appreciate us. But in practical this can never be true since critics are very much important to know the mindset of people. Your close relationships might appreciate a photo but what about when it is exposed to millions of people.
Not everyone is a fan and that is why God has built humans who are blessed with brains in order to find some issues. Trust me, none of the ideas are able to accumulate hundred percentage of positive reviews. Critics will automatically appear once positive reviews start pouring in. People who are sensitive to suggestions of people can quickly get in that position of finding themselves being hurt.
Opinions matter only to grow or make a progress on our career. Some individuals have so much problem with our private life that they always find a way to give negative suggestion. This is not a case with two or three people because it happens with everyone who have worked hard and are gaining momentum in their field.
Negative suggestions are very hard to digest but just think does it matter for you? When it comes to career growth, you might think to apply it. But not those kind of suggestions which are unchangeable. The most important part of self-acceptance is to accept who you are. It doesn’t matter what people think about your private life. There is nothing more harmful than accepting their unworthy suggestions.
The problem is we are not able to block them since we love them. And since we love them we take them personally. So before you step further, just keep in mind to ignore suggestions just like you ignore the taste of food when you are hungry.
ACCEPT YOURSELF NO MATTER HOW MUCH IMPERFECT YOU ARE
The problem is not with you, it is with the ideology of those people who are trying to put random suggestions. It’s their loss because they don’t have any work to do rather than commenting on someone else’s personal life. And this problem will continue to grow because they won’t change.
As the competition will go on increasing, there will be more number of such people who will try their best to hurt you. And that is why you need to first accept who you are. Accept your flaws and issues that you are suffering through. Remember those issues are also happening with someone else. People who complain have only thought themselves as perfect where actually they are nothing in reality.
Reacting over such comments is going to drain your motivation. Mental peace can only be achieved when you accept who you are. Maturity is when others personal comments don’t bother you. Just think about yourself and stop worrying about other people. Self-acceptance is the key to personal peace. It’s a sign of true emotional and mental maturity. Always remember.
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