When was the last time you experienced a conflict like situation? Did you try to attack or defend yourself? Aggression is neither the way to take revenge from someone nor defence is the solution over your problem. This is because both of the ways will make the problem even more complex. You might have experienced this situation at your home itself. You defend yourself as much as possible when your parents try to attack you on your self-made decisions, isn’t it? Though this might look like a solution but in reality there will always some misconception leaving behind between your parents and you. A lot of people think that avoidance is the only way to get out of a problem.
If you take a recent example of Afghanistan crisis in which Afghans tried to escape the superficial dominance. Most of them had experienced its previous rule before and because of the fear about the strict laws they tried to flee their own homeland. You may find it as a way to freedom. But how many of them will call it as a true freedom?
Even if they try to settle themselves in a new culture, but it will always be called as a defeat since most of them haven’t left the nation. Avoidance in this case is not the solution because the only way to get freedom is through peaceful resolution. If the problem doesn’t even get solved through peaceful resolution then the final solution is to fight. Fighting can only be the solution when opposition doesn’t try to resolve it peacefully but avoidance will only make you feel guilty of not trying.
The rate of literacy which was before is far superior now if observed with the perspective of technology. Many of us have secured knowledge from internet. In past no one used to think about resolution or agreement in order to solve issues. This was because of the mentality to attack or defend.
In these two decades after development in technology, we have understood most of things through social media and internet itself. Since then you can see so many changes in behaviour even in case of illiterate people. Education does not just mean reading and writing.
Most of the people only see education with the perspective of reading and writing because of their mentality. More than that, education should be seen as a way to listen, understand and resolve problems. That’s why in many parts of the world you can see politicians who are illiterate but have enough capabilities to adapt to fierce situations.
So the chances of peaceful resolution increases when you are able to communicate and understand the opposition’s point of view. Never fight with anyone by judging the level of education through certificates. Remember that today’s reality is very different what is was before.
RELATIONSHIPS WON’T SURVIVE WITHOUT PROPER COMMUNICATION
We all want perfect relationships, isn’t it? And we all know that it is not at all possible to have a flawless person in your life. It’s not just about a partner but the entire community who is contributing towards your growth. Then it can be colleagues from your office, college or even your family members.
We all want to have a good and healthy relationship. But as said before that perfection doesn’t exist unless you strive for it. Similarly a conflict won’t get solved until you step forward and stick to it. Many of us still have this ideology of blaming people for entering intentionally to destroy our life.
We remain sweet as sugar on first meet and then turn bitter while leaving. Hasn’t this happened with you? Of course because all of us follow this policy because we try to avoid things, human when they don’t work according to us. We don’t feel being with someone who opposes our beliefs.
It can be between our friends, family, spouse or any relationship. We all look for someone who will respect our thoughts, privacy and won’t let us down. And that is where we all fail. This is absolutely impossible because none of us have similar ideologies, lifestyle, and most importantly our thoughts.
Probably you might be similar in some way but not entirely. And that is a fact which we all have to accept and respect. If you want to resolve a conflict between you and someone, you will have to step forward first. When you try to ignore, the other person will also copy your actions.
And then it leads to avoidance which gives no result. Remember that no matter what happens you shouldn’t lose your hope unless you communicate and understand the other person’s point of view. It will not only clear your doubts but also give a clear thought process of what needs to be done further. Your hopes of surviving your relationships will increase more after you change your way of dealing with conflicts. Always remember.
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