A person who always thinks and questions that why do humans act like in this manner won’t be able to achieve control over emotions. We might appreciate this question but actually this question doesn’t have any stable answer. This is because we all have unique ability and capacity to think according to our mindset.
Or we can also say that our mentality has been created in such a way that we always feel right what is present in our mind. We never know about the external facts and extremes about a particular situation. And that is why a lot of people never get the answer that why do humans act in this manner.
Suppose your friend might think that being rich is the ultimate satisfaction in life. And for you the ultimate goal might be having a beautiful relationship. Regardless we all have different desires but we never know the dark side of these situations. For example, having a lot of money can be demandable for middle class people, but when they are able to complete that goal, their desire might change to something else.
If one goal is completed the secondary arises, and when the secondary goal is completed the tertiary arises, and when tertiary goal is completed the quaternary arises. We lack the true understanding of a situation when we don’t have any experience. This can be explained with our struggles itself.
For example if we are working on a particular idea. We might know the amount of struggles we have faced through it since we have experienced it deeply. There might be even some parts where we had to incur loss and pain at the same time. And in order to let others know about the problem, we speak in front and try to convince people to respect them as much as possible.
Your problem can only be understood if there is kind of mutual understanding. In this feelings are involved and not just raw actions. Now suppose if you are telling the same situation to a stone-hearted person who doesn’t have positive emotion and feelings at all. He/she only works to make benefits and discourages other’s opinion. What will happen if you keep convincing this person again and again?
Will he/she be convinced with your opinion? Of course not until he/she truly experiences that situation and also gets to know the dark side of the reality. We often get to know this when we are practising it in our daily routine. And this can be a mental torture for your mind because you might think that the person has ego or trying to ignore your emotions.
He/she might set impression that your work is not worthy as per thought process. So in such situation you can never change his/her mindset no matter how much you try to convince. People have their own opinion and they fix it on their mind if they only look at the external side of an idea. And that is why they remain stubborn over their mentality. Now let’s change the side.
Suppose if he/she wants to convince you about a situation that has created a lot of pain in his/her life. You won’t get convinced with what the other one is trying to say since you can have a variable perspective. Since he/she has shown that kind of attitude you won’t even try to listen. This is because you have fixed on your mind that the person is rude while communicating.
But now suppose his/her behaviour changes within few years. You meet him/her again and then you recollect this memory of behaviour, the way he/she had showed attitude towards you. So will you like to talk to him/her? Of course not because you have that feeling that it’s not good for your mind. He/she might make your life messy and you will deviate from him/her.
LOVE YOUR WORK AND DON’T BOTHER ABOUT OTHER’S OPINION
One of the most important lessons we can learn is this. Because when we get bothered by others we let our motivation die. That motivation is important to keep our passion going on. There are thousands of opinions, variable perspectives and you are getting bombarded by them at every minute of the day, so how will you feel?
Out of those thousand opinions suppose eight hundred are discouraging then will you try to fight with all of them? Of course not because you will ultimately feel tired if you try to convince them all. This is what happens in the reality when people don’t mind their business. They will have a different opinion because they might not like that field or someone might have told them that it’s not worth at all.
In this matter of value a lot of people have proved others wrong not by mouth or facial expressions, but by hard work and determination. As we have seen above that we can’t fix every individual and feed what we want. It’s not a memory device where we can store only the files we want. We all are free but how we manage this freedom has much more importance.
People are agitated because they take such opinions personally. The more you take something personally the worse it will be for your mental health. People don’t try to understand this society and that is why they complain because they feel others are cruel and ignorant.
The behaviour of human is natural since we all are following the law of nature. Just like wild animals kill other to feed their stomach, we are also doing the same. But in case of humans, they show it with emotions. On one side someone tells you that your work is shit and there are fans waiting for you on the other side.
So whom will you prefer the most? Ninety nine percent of people will walk towards their customers because they will be bringing profits and fame at the same time. You cannot quit your work just because someone has different opinion.
WE MUST APPRECIATE DIFFERENCES
Last but not the least, there are very few people on this planet who appreciate others opinion even if they think that they are actually talking shit. There are supporters as well as jealous individuals who create different impact on such people. But on the other hand these type of people only think about the audience who create a positive impact.
But they never ignore the jealous side. Equally they appreciate their opinion too. Negative people or positive people we need all of them. But it is on our mind and our emotions that for whom to think more. The positive side will support you whereas negative side will pull you down. It all depends on you. So be yourself first.
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