We are so busy on our daily jobs, entertaining colleagues and friends, going for a date night, convincing boss for a holiday and begging for a partner. And yes we are doing this everything for others or your dear partner or family. It might look as a responsibility but most of the times these can be real frustrations of your life. And we don’t have any time for understanding what is self-reflection.
You might have experienced this in a committed relationship that no matter how much you provide or nourish your family there will be time that they will feel less-important about the way you are working. This happens especially with families where a single person is working for the whole team.
And this can be really tiring because the other team members might never support that individual. They want him/her to carry and move forward with the responsibilities. And it takes place mostly with the growing and immature relationships. Humans are developing at every point and during that period we give very less time towards our personal development.
Commonly it starts after the age of 25 i.e. when people are set for their marriages. Now due to decrease in job opportunities, sour relationships and increase in competition, people are feeling there is no time for having a check over themselves.
And that is where we go wrong. Sometimes our actions are so brutal that in turn it can hurt us. Suppose if you are talking with someone or having a discussion, there is need of connection that should take place in order to let that information to be properly communicated between both the individuals. If it is not done in that proper manner then people might blame your communication problems.
So that improper communication will become a tragedy for you. Work will not be done in a proper manner. You will get confused a lot and there might include problems too. This is not the main problem, the main problem is that we ignore such signs. I mean we don’t think about such small problems and then it starts becoming a tragedy. So first we will start with the meaning of self-reflection.
MEANING OF SELF-REFLECTION
It is a process by which a person grows his own understanding of what he is, through the values and a better amount of experience. In simple words it means a person finds himself through his experience and tries to explore his body and his values for better understanding. I know it might be a pretty confusing for you but trust me it’s one of the most important topic when it comes to better understanding of the soul and the body we are living with.
Most of the people try to ignore this as much as possible because they think it’s not worth understanding one’s mind and rather people try to understand someone’s else’s suggestion. Take an example of a motivational speaker or an influencer. The influencer who had a huge amount of experience with that field might motivate you in some or other manner. You might even think about it again and again but at the end it won’t have any influence at all.
People have the most common misconception i.e. they think someone might help them in showing the right way or what path to choose. They blindly follow suggestion of other people without even thinking about it. Just like an advertisement which is shown on T.V. where a person lose ten kilos weight in three months. They show that before and after scene in order to make us tempted. People think that it’s right to buy it since it’s in their budget.
Though it might be in budget but does it really work? Most of the advertisements which are working online and offline are fake. They only show half of the things and not the actual process. Have you seen that person loosing ten kilos weight in three months? Yes, that is how people are fooled.
Advertisements are trying to act smart in many ways in order to sell their products. And they try to convince people in order to sell them. But the problem is not with the advertisement but the product itself. No matter how better your convincing power is but if consumer realize that your product is unworthy then definitely it won’t sell as it should be.
Similarly no matter how great the influencer might be, if you don’t know yourself well then there is no use of following that suggestion. People intake pills and medicines that doesn’t work on them because these pills react differently on different bodies. Self-realization is the greatest power in order to understand one’s true self. And the first step for a person’s realization is through experience
SELF-REALIZATION THROUGH EXPERIENCE
Have you ever used your experience in a better manner? Yes I know it was in your job. Especially that experience certificate, we seek in order to get promotion in the hierarchy of a company. That is where we make use of experience. What we have learnt in that specific course or field and we apply it during the interview rounds. That tremendous amount of knowledge does not make any internal changes but it’s only to earn money.
That’s really sad for a human being. But what else can we do other than this. Since we don’t have anything other than that job. We are needy and money is the primary source of happiness. That is what we have followed till now. When we listen to the word experience we think about experience certificates, promotions and that nonsense shit.
Remember that experience certificate just provides you an increment of your fixed salary and nothing. A good amount of experience of our body and mind is more important than that dusty experience certificate. And that is what self-reflection is. Most of the people work like donkeys for that promotion in a hierarchy but forget to understand themselves. Millionaires and billionaires who are alive today don’t rely on this formula at all. They think and understand with a greater perspective.
It’s so easy to say that someone is a millionaire but that entitlement comes up when they are successful. And that success is obtained by proper understanding. Proper understanding of ourselves and the work we are doing because this where most of the people fail. Individuals move forward with the path what parents say and that can be the most frustrating point in someone’s life.
Common, here experience means what you know about yourself. Just like when your body get urges to pee or to poop, there is a process happening which signals you. And you know what those signals are the main problem. Since poop and pee is done physically we can understand them easily. We can go to washroom for doing the same. But there are certain signals which our mind doesn’t understand.
These signals are experienced frequently but we don’t recollect and observe them. Suppose you might like writing, but you don’t practice it frequently. There might be value within you which supports writing or I can say you will be the greatest writer of all time. But these are statements and not an actual proof because that proof lies within you. And this can be only be found when you start experimenting with yourself.
A good experience better shows off with experiments. You might lie dumb and say I have experience. No! Never, because experience means experiments carried by us. What kind of experiments you have tried till now. You can die poor but might have zero experience in any field. The greatest self-reflection of life is what we have learnt from experiments which might be failure or success.
“The Greatest Experience Is Found Through Learning With Experiments No Matter What The Result is. Failure Or Success Because Learning Is The Key.”
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