How many of you have gone through this phase of your life where your relationship feels absolutely worthless. I know this phase very well but very few people get to a point where they can make their decisions by their own. It’s very much frustrating to feel since completing all of your activities in your routine becomes rigid and we have to sacrifice a lot.
You might try to reduce those activities and continue with very few but even after that you don’t feel stress free. Majority of these issues are because of your sudden change in emotions. It’s very much important to have a routine check over your emotions when you face some distractions and feel low.
You need to find out that what is really causing such troubles. Most of the people ignore this and when they realize that they are stuck in a trap then it becomes too late to get out of it. These traps are never seen but we can feel it.
Let’s take an example. Suppose you are walking on a footpath and few steps ahead you see a manhole. So will you step on it or deviate from that path. Of course you will deviate because you don’t want to get hurt. But when it comes to these mental traps we can’t see them with your naked eyes or even with a simple microscope.
They are basically invisible and we constantly feel it through some sudden unplanned changes in the routine. The best example is of a breakup. Many people think break up is as disastrous as poisoned death. If you have gone through then you might realise it. And the next day after breakup you try to start with a fresh perspective.
Yet you don’t feel of carrying out such tasks due to some external pressure like your seniors. So in this process you are trying to ignore your mental health as well as your physical health. You try to think of those memories of how you had spent days with your partner and now he is no more.
You think of him or her all the time and then you drain your energy by only thinking and thinking. The term mental health in today’s world is gaining more amount of attention because of the issues we are facing. Relationship issues are common among people who have mental health problems.
So first of all you need to recognize is this moment because in future it will only make you feel low. If there’s something which has caused this issue then you need to give time to yourself by pressing pause button over your routine activities.
BREAKUP IS A LESSON BUT DON’T KILL THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF
You might have seen people who try to harm their bodies or try to hurt themselves because of a breakup. They cry over their ruined past and not being able to meet them again. This is a common instance because we humans get attached to each other very quickly.
This is especially true in the relationship which we see between couples. People with the mindset of having a single long term relationship feel pain of not being able to make their dreams come true. It happens and one shouldn’t feel shattered of what their partners have done.
Most of the relationship don’t survive because there’s constant violence, misunderstanding and jealousy about each other. So it’s not in your hands and absolutely you shouldn’t feel the pain of not being able to keep the relationship alive if the other person is not supporting you.
You need to understand that if the struggle, time you are giving in is going to yield any results or not. There is nothing you can do if the person is not giving the equal amount of struggle. Even if their struggle is less, it’s okay but don’t keep with a relationship which is constantly pulling you down in mess.
The sacrifice you are giving shouldn’t destroy you and your peace. Because if you do so then there’s absolutely no meaning to your sacrifice you have done till now. Further people blame themselves for falling in an unworthy relationship and because of that they torture themselves even more.
If your dreams are not fulfilled, if your relationships never worked accordingly then don’t regret. One shouldn’t have regret if he/she has really tried everything possible. Remember if it’s not meant for you then it won’t even change in the future.
Have you ever seen a relationship which goes through break up and then again those people try to come together? It might happen in movies but not in reality because changing a person’s set of values is highly impossible. You cannot change a human’s perspective and thinking only by self-sacrifice.
Instead try to sacrifice for building yourself first. The priority should be changed from your relationship to yourself. No matter what kind of relationship you have, save yourself first. Make sacrifice on the kind of relationship you will build with yourself and not with others. Yes, our desire for relationship will always recur but don’t let it consume yourself. Always remember.
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